In todays world its almost normal to have at least one job. My sister works three jobs and goes to school for her masters, friends at school work two jobs and attend night school, there are tons of moms out there working at a fulltime job, a fulltime mom, and some even go to school! I think these are amazing women and I'd love to hear how you do it. I came across an inspirational entrepreneur named Marc Cenedella. He is the CEO of TheLadders.com which is an online job search site. I thought he had some great advice in his book, You're Better Than Your Job Search. I love to work, I love having an income and paying off bills, and after yoga school, I began teaching a few classes but when the chances to teach more classes came, I had to decline just because of the lack of time I would have. So every once in a while I teach a class at work for the office peeps. In addition to that, I've found this new passion in acupuncture, so I'm currently going to school for my Masters in Science which is going to take about 4 more years and next semesters class picks are coming up, ugh. I hate this part, planning which nights I want to give up is not fun. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I'm able to go to school right now and learn something that I'm interested in, but the older I get (don't know why that is) the more I'm aware of the sacrifices that need to be made for things. My husband is extremely supportive and encouraging with school, but I know there is something that builds between people from spending real time together and that is not something I'm prepared to sacrifice for more schooling. And while we've talked about it and he says he's fine, maybe I need that time more than he does! He knows how I feel and has said that whatever I want to do is cool for him. For example, the sacrifice of classes on Fridays nights is that after a long week of working and class and cleaning and cooking, I don't get that release and satisfaction at the end of the week. And I started to wonder, is this just Americans who work this much? Are we addicted to overwork? Or does working alot actually make people happy? And I researched a little and found this article Workers of the World, Relax :
"All societies throughout history have had work right at their center; but ours -- particularly America's -- is the first to suggest that it could be something other than a punishment or penance. Ours is the first to imply that a sane human being would want to work even if he wasn't under financial pressure to do so. We are unique, too, in allowing our choice of work to define who we are, so that the central question we ask of new acquaintances is not where they come from or who their parents are but, rather, what it is they do -- as though only this could effectively reveal what gives a human life its distinctive timbre."
I hope that what I do doesn't define who I am to that extent! Its like Carrie says in Sex in the City the tv show when she's about the go off with the French guy regarding her writing for her column "Thats not who I am, thats what I do". And then I came across this great blog Mama Nuggle about a first time mom having a baby and having to go back to work, while her husband stayed home with their son and she says about working with a family and she doesn't let her work define her:
"Most importantly, it became easier to walk away from my job and call it a day, knowing that work could wait but my family couldn’t. A self-proclaimed workaholic, I suddenly realized that my work would never fully be done, and my to-do list would never be completely blank. And I accepted that. My colleagues noticed. My husband noticed. I noticed. And most importantly, Ty noticed. I soon lived a new mantra: being a manager is NOT HOW I AM GOING TO DEFINE MY ROLE IN THIS LIFE. It’s like the John Lennon quote, “LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU WHILE YOU’RE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS.”
I remember hearing old stories from my Grandmoms of life, and it didn't seem to involve so much "work" as it does today, and I question how things have changed. How do you feel about working? Are you happy working all the time or do you need alot of downtime?